So my friend was giving me a ride the other day and in the course of our confabulation she remarks that with my romantic sensibilities, I "would just shut the guy down if he was, like; 'Rika, you are so beautiful'".
Does that seem true to you? Some of you will say "OH yeah, that is TotAlLy something you would do" because you can see me sitting with some slightly random acquaintance and not enjoying it a whit.
That's true, I wouldn't enjoy sitting with a poor sucker for an hour over dinner, trying to make conversation about the weather and skiing and what it is like to live in Italy. He wouldn't like it either, if he's an intelligent bloke.
Have I mentioned that I wouldn't date a guy I didn't know and like? Have I mentioned that I wouldn't date anybody I thought didn't know me? Doesn't that seem normal to anybody else? Doesn't everybody tell me I'm hard to get to know? Why does it surprise people that scarce are the men I find myself attracted to!?
It is true that some people have no clue how to go about being attractive and available to me, though. Ugh! (Alas that there are men who read "self-help" and can be found voluntarily perusing the "inspirational" aisle in bookstores. So degrading.) Unfortunately, the few I have met are entirely unavailable; they seem to all be married, sworn to celibacy, dead, fiction, or unchristian (or *nearly* any combination of the above).
Anyway, if I find a single man of large fortune and in want of a wife with whom I can share interests and be friends with--a Christian--then I shall put a yellow sticky note on him labeling him as such so that everyone will know and you can call Ripley's and get his autograph before he dies or becomes a priest or gets married to somebody else, or reveals that he is a Wiccan anarchist with Taoist democratic leanings. Ew.
P.S. If it was a guy I respected enough as a friend, who knew me, then I could accept the compliment without fear of reprisal, and deliver my thanks. I have been known to do so. However, it seems that people only see me as going out with friends of friends or lonely single guys they know. I wouldn't go out with somebody as a pity-date; that's insulting to both parties.