Tuesday, December 28

friendships and the search for truth

Lewis (keep the visible cringing to a minimum, please) said that Friendship is seeing and seeking the same truth. Is this true? It cannot be true.

I have a friend who lives with a man not her husband and has no commitment to him. I have a friend who is homosexual. I have friends who refuse to believe in anything but themselves. I have friends who know what is right and do the opposite. I have friends who condemn my way of life but stick with me in hopes that I'll change. I have friends that look at pornography. I have friends who just plain don't THINK.

They are all my friends and we believe different things. But we like the same ideas about society (though not the reasons why) and we share some of the same interests and hobbies; writing or languages or reading or traveling.

If what Lewis says is true, then I am sorely in need of a make-over where it considers my choice of friends. In fact, let's just say that I wouldn't have many friends at all if I went with him. The friends I would have left would be those closest to me, but they were not the only ones I love. Gah, it is hard.

I would like to seek the same truth, but I am content and will settle for having the same interests. Friends who see and quest for the same truth you do are rare and not to be taken lightly or touched gingerly. Perhaps the problem is with me? I don't know.

God, you are out there and you see how my mind is fooling around with ideas. Get me to realise the truth, no matter the cost to me if it fits in with what you want. I want to know the truth and to be able to act on it in a way that reflects who you are. If any of this is what I'm meant to feel and what you want me to learn, let it be clear to me. If you must rip out my heart to make it, do that. Break me. You are the only one who can put me back together, anyway. If it doesn't hurt others, if it is your plan, please let me know and understand and learn so that I can hope.

Because hope in you does not disappoint us.

1 comment:

Harbin said...

I think that Lewis meant to aver that affinity is found most easily with shared points of view and common goals.

As per truth, one can debate the nature of the term until doomsday, and not achieve any satisfactory definition. Nonetheless, for a mind such as yours, I would posit that so important a term should not be permitted to flap about unfettered.

I believe that an argument of definition is singularly important in any proper philosophical, moral, or ortherwise intellectual discussion.

Too often a proponent will attempt to skip the work of defining a term by trying to slip it in to a debate already in progress.

In your case, I see an implicit assumption that an opinion such as Lewis' can carry a true/untrue value.

So my 0.026424 Euro's worth is this:

Ask not "What is friendship?"

Instead ask "What is truth?"

Cheers,
HQ